You are always right, is a permanent human characteristic, and yet I can hear most of you saying, “No, I’m not”. Your ability to communicate your message more effectively improves when you fully understand the implication of this principle. With this knowledge you can choose different ways of saying what you want to say and have more impact. Why? Because you begin to appreciate if you're right then maybe you can accept everybody else believes they are right too.
Accepting you are always right is a difficult concept for people to take and just as hard to explain it. I will do my best. Knowing you are always right has nothing to do with ego. It’s a human characteristic, and when we absorb this, we may find we do not need to defend our position so steadfastly.
If you want to be more effective with your communication, then you want to appreciate you are always right in your own mind. If you don’t know or accept this, then you’re about to find out why, and the implications. You will learn what it means to know you are always right. You will learn how incorporating this into your knowledge base leads to more successful outcomes through your communication.
We All have this Experience
Everybody experiences the following at least once in their life. You go and see a show or something with family or friends. For example, a game of football. You and your mates go to watch a local match. After the game, you talk about it over a drink. There are four of you, and each shares a different experience, and each is right from their perspective. Sometimes it turns into arguments because people want to push their view or be right. When you realise, everybody is always right, and what it means, you can learn to avoid these pointless quarrels.
We see everything from our perspective, and in our minds, we are right. Our interpretation of our experience comes from our belief system. It’s not surprising we see things differently.
What Being Right Means
You believe everything you say, otherwise, why would you say it.
Let me say that again.
You believe everything you say, otherwise, why would you say it.
Yes, I know some people deliberately distort the truth, and they probably believe that’s right for them. It’s their conscious choice.
You are always right, is a human characteristic, and is true for you all the time. It means you are always right, pure and simple. Yes, simple and easy to accept when you truly grasp what it means.
It is your truth now, but if you are open to other views, then your truth can change.
There are implications if you don’t understand this. When you do acknowledge it, then you have added possibilities of connecting with more people.
You are always right, but what you believe is right changes continuously based on new information that you receive all the time.
Appreciating you are always right is one small part of effective communication.
What Being Right Doesn’t Mean
Always being right is not about responding to knowledge-based questions. I’m referring to responses or statements that come through your belief system.
For example, How many grams in a kilo? The answer can be right or wrong because there is only one answer. It’s not the same as having a belief which is different to someone else’s because then there isn’t just one answer.
If someone asks you, “What do you think of climate change”, you reply with what you know, or you say, you don’t know. You respond to the question about climate change based on what you know, and you believe you are right, or you wouldn’t say it.
Effective communication isn’t about the facts, you know. It’s about getting your message across as intended and understanding ‘you are always right’ makes a big difference.
You can see this clearly on Facebook. People are so entrenched in their opinions and are unable to accept other people’s point of view because they believe they are always right. We’ll go a little deeper into this later on.
Proving You Are Always Right
It’s easy to prove you are always right, which is a human characteristic.
In my workshops, when I tell people, they’re always right, some respond with “No, I’m not always right.”
When I ask, and isn’t that your truth whether you say yes or no?
They laugh and understand what I mean by it.” They acknowledge they are always right because they are making that choice.
In my experience, despite their acceptance at the time, people still struggle to integrate it into their belief system. I believe most will forget it, and only one or two will embrace it.
You see everybody is always right, is a human characteristic, whatever way you choose to see things. You communicate according to your beliefs, and you believe you are right unless of course, you decide to lie knowingly.
Effective communication improves when people appreciate they are always right.
The World has a Quandary
For several years now, I’ve believed our world has a dilemma because we don’t appreciate, you are always right, is a human characteristic. Most people have an I'm right you must be wrong attitude.
The world is currently trapped with a predicament because it behaves as if there is only one truth. The media act as if they are always right. Our wonderful media love to parade experts in front of us as if they have the only truth and use people known as experts to prove their point.
Once upon a time, the media reported the news. No longer. They talk as if they are the experts on everything. They parade experts in front of us who support their views.
Their confrontational style of interviewing is growing all the time. It’s not surprising that the listeners are confused and often don’t know what it all means.
What we do know is that people choose one side or the other. The same confrontational style is increasing everywhere, and their decisions depend on what the people believe, based on the information that is available to them. In other words, they are right in their minds. You can see it on Facebook every day.
One thing we can see happening is division all around the world, and it’s roughly a 50/50 split. Whoever wins the debate, contest, or argument are guaranteed to be opposed by the other half.
I believe this is happening because people think they’re always right and have stopped listening. People don’t recognise that if they believe they’re always right then so does everybody else.
If you want to have effective communication, you must accept you are always right and therefore, so is everybody else.
Politicians Always Believe They Are Right
What is happening around the world is disturbing and humorous at the same time. Nevermore so, than with politicians of today.
In the US and the UK politics at the moment, everybody is spouting what they believe is the truth. It’s all about them and us. One side believes they are always right, while the other believes they are also always right.
It’s important to understand that everybody is always right and there isn’t only one answer. Currently, there is an antagonistic style of communication that doesn’t serve us. Why can’t we all learn to cooperate for the benefit of all? Until we appreciate each individual has their view and accept this then this dilemma will never change.
If they step back and look and listen, they can learn to listen to each other with an open mind and avoid being tainted by their own belief. Instead, politicians currently push their truth on people rather than using effective communication. Many people with teams use the same tactics to their detriment.
Understand this, and then you can make informed decisions because you are capable of listening with an open mind to all sides without prior judgement.
It’s time to take responsibility for always being right, and understand what this implies if you desire effective communication. It isn't a bad thing unless you become rigid in your position.
Why is it Important to Accept You Are Always Right?
Somebody says something, and you may agree, disagree, get upset or defend. You may get into an argument because you disagree. You may decide you don’t like the person who opposes your view you may feel hurt, and the list is endless.
Bottom line, when you get emotional about something somebody said or did, you react according to your personality.
And so, a simple communication can turn into a disaster from upset silence and even war all because you disagree. All because you are always right.
When you don’t allow others to have a different point of view to yours, you cannot be rational. One of the reactions stated above will come into play. You may end up arguing about something that isn’t even important to you.
Our beliefs are how we relate to life. If someone challenges one of your beliefs, it can sting you into action because your view is always right. It’s a human characteristic. We are developing our beliefs throughout our lives. It’s an ongoing process, although lots of people make some of their beliefs a permanent feature and nothing will change them. In some way, our beliefs are part of our survival kit. People have killed to defend their belief.
When you realise everybody is always right, it’s an opportunity to discuss differences and attempt to understand each other. Listening this way leads to effective communication. You believe you are right, but you now accept that they are right too.
On Facebook, you can experience people who are always right holding on to their position everywhere. It shows up in posts and comments all over Facebook. People say something, and then people may respond positively, while others may go on the attack. A good listener can tell when people are defending, attacking, agreeing, or ignoring and many other responses. It’s evident when people have not listened, and their answers are fascinating because they believe they are right. And they are stuck in their head.
What Next to Create More Effective Communication?
You can accept that if you are right, then everyone else is right too. Everybody is entitled to have a different point of view, to yours. Now, all of a sudden, you open yourself up to a whole new world of possibilities, when you understand this is a human characteristic.
You don’t have to agree with other people’s opinions, but you can learn to accept that’s how they see things. Now your communication starts to become more effective.
WOW! What freedom, what possibilities are now available to you that will expand your understanding of yourself and the world in which you live.
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Acceptance Isn’t Easy
Accepting and adopting the concept that you are always right isn’t easy because we’re all humans with feelings and often react automatically to words and situations. Our beliefs are what have helped us survive and so it's difficult to accept new information that is contrary to them.
If you learn this new way of understanding and then accept your fixed position could be flexible, and you may not be right. Then you can learn to choose different reactions to other people’s words. Realising this, leads to more effective communication.
When you understand what always being right means, your internal responses probably won’t change. But, you can become skilled at selecting new replies if the same circumstance occur again. Feedback and listening help you to create this change.
Can you imagine what life would be like if you halved or even more, the number of negative debates or arguments you have?
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